I’ve been a homeschooling mom for 8 years now. And as with most of motherhood, it has been quite a ride! Every day is different and we’ve been through a variety of seasons. Like every other homeschooling family, we have our own list of “the good, the bad, the ugly”. (I’d also like to humbly submit the overwhelmingly joyous and the downright awful to that list.) 😉
Sometimes homeschooling feels fresh and exciting. Other times, you may catch me giving the big, yellow bus a wistful glance as it drives by our house. And these are just my feelings. Throw in a passel of little humans with their own personalities to that mix and let’s just say it’s not all sunshines and roses, folks.
Being able to homeschool my children is one of my greatest joys. I truly wouldn’t trade it for anything. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy all the time. As with most of parenthood, it’s demanding and challenging. As homeschooling parents we can easily find ourselves at a place where homeschooling feels overwhelming and burdensome.
If that’s where you find yourself today, I want you to know that it’s okay. And I so wish I could give you a hug and we could sit down and chat together. Because, friend, you are not alone! I promise you are not the first one to have these feelings and you won’t be the last.
I’ve asked 5 other wonderful homeschool moms to share their wisdom for the times when homeschooling feels like a burden. I hope you’re as encouraged as I am by what they share! This post contains affiliate links. You can read my full disclosure here.
Advice for When Homeschooling Feels Like a Burden
Jamerrill Stewart from Free Homeschool Deals, author of Hope for the Heart of the Homeschool Mom
“When our homeschool feels overwhelming, it may be time to call for a mental health day. Just give everyone a breather, there will be no harm in taking a day off. Get outside, soak up the sunshine, and leave the books in the workboxes. Everyone feels better after a day off!”
Tina Robertson from Tina’s Dynamic Homeschool Plus
“Homeschooling changes each year. One year, you may feel like you made headway by leaps and bounds and other years, you may feel like you barely met your goals.
It’s important to remember that you will not have the same demands on your time each year. Getting to a point when all your kids are independent and knowing you weathered any storm just refuels your tank and kindles a love for learning at home that is hard to put into words.
It is that feeling you get deep down in your gut that you know it will all be okay because you see the progress and positive changes in your children.
Don’t give in either to fear or thinking that you are not doing enough. In the end when they graduate and you look back with tears, you see that it has all been worth it.”
“I’ve homeschooled through some difficult circumstances and big transitions. Things like living overseas, moving 4 times in 4 years, working 2 part time jobs, serious medical issues, and more. Sure, it would have been a lot easier without my kids at home during any of these challenging circumstances.
Every time that I felt like my load was too much, I really had to stop and evaluate why I was homeschooling. Homeschooling was a burden only because I let it be a burden. I had to change my attitude and remember the joy that homeschooling brought me.
And when I did, homeschooling went from being a burden, just another hard job I had to endure, to being one of my greatest delights.”Brenda from Schooling a Monkey
“I think it’s best to draw back when homeschooling gets tough. The amazing thing about homeschooling is that you can work along with the ebb and flow of normal life without sacrificing the quality of a child’s education. If you need a break for a couple of weeks or months, take it! You’ll feel much more refreshed when you come back.”Alicia Kazsuk from Vibrant Homeschooling, author of Plan to Be Flexible
“It is completely normal for homeschooling to feel like a burden from time to time! Although homeschooling on the whole is an amazing, transformative experience for the entire family, I would completely agree that we all go through periods like this. It’s an imperfect journey, just like any other life journey that we take (marriage, parenting, a career).
However, despite homeschooling’s imperfections, I can say without a doubt that deep, lasting homeschooling joy is possible!
How do we get to this authentic, joy-filled, homeschool living?
We must be real with ourselves. We must embrace the challenges, determine the “whys” behind our feelings of frustration, and potentially work through some not-so-pretty parts inside. We must weed out the lies (no matter how subtle they may seem) and the joy-stealers like perfectionism, comparison and anger. We must develop practical tools that result in daily, healthy mental shifts toward the truth. And most of all, we must cling to the One who guides and directs our homeschooling path, trusting that His plan may not always “feel” good but that it is good.
These things are not done overnight or done hastily, but through slow, intentional, grace-filled steps. My online video course “bloom: A Journey to Joy (and Sanity) for Homeschool Moms” shares about these steps, focusing on the principles mentioned above.
Friend, I encourage you to seek out truth and to be willing to allow God to weed out those areas that are stealing your homeschooling joy and keeping you from the fullest, richest homeschooling experience possible.”
You are not a failure if you feel like homeschooling is a burden. You are not a bad homeschooling mom. This season will end. The important thing is that you don’t allow yourself to stay in this place. God has made no mistake in placing you on this homeschool journey. And He has not abandoned you along the path. He is right there with you, cheering you on. Celebrating your victories and walking with you during the trials! Have you experienced times when homeschooling feels like a burden? Share your tips in the comments. Be sure to sign up for free email updates so you don’t miss any future posts! This post is part of the iHomeschool Network’s “Ask the Experts” series.
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